Going Public

28 Mar

We’re looking at 13 weeks in a couple of days, which is more or less the close of the first trimester.  And a couple of days ago, I saw Carey and it took me by surprise: “You kind of look like a pregnant lady.”

We decided early on to do the prudent thing and get a whole trimester under our belts before openly telling people our news.  What was a tiny handful of immediate family and a few local friends has started to expand.  We’ve made a few calls, sent a couple of emails, particularly over the last several days.  It couldn’t be helped, we’re starting to spill it.  Up to now, most of the people who know about our biggest life event are strangers we’ve never met who happened across our still-secret blogs.

It’s a little like walking off a cliff.  We know intellectually that whatever happens with these three… all our fears and anxieties and excitement and confusion… has nothing to do with who we do or don’t tell.  The three gnomes don’t care how ready we are, they’re moving forward with their own little plans.  But, even still, with each new person that knows our news, it feels like we’re committing to something a little bit more.

But it’s fun, dropping the bomb on people.  Assuming all goes to plan, it’s our once-in-a-lifetime chance to make an announcement like this, because ain’t no way we’re having any more. We’ve settled into a sort of rhythm with it: Carey and I are beginning to perfect the “hand off.”  If we’re in-person with someone who we feel good about telling, one of us will announce the pregnancy and we enjoy a minute or two of hugs and handshakes.  Then the other will drop the Triplet knowledge and all chaos ensues.

No surprise, nobody believes us immediately.  We’re getting used to slack jaws.  It’s weird, we know.  Those we’re close to have a hard time picturing us going the IVF route and, of course, they’re right.  When we tell people there was no IVF, no fertility help, it makes it all the more incredible.

Carey’s even taken to packing the ultrasound printouts with her as “proof”.  Of course, once or twice, we’ve even heard, “yeah, but hang on.  Jer knows photoshop, right?”

As much as we’re enjoying having friends and families celebrate (and sympathize) with us, we’re also trying our best to treasure these final moments of Our Big Secret being, well, a secret.  We’ve read too many triplet blogs recently to have any illusions: triplets draw attention.  Stares and questions quickly become an everyday part of life.  Not that I’m complaining.  I’m kind of looking forward to fielding questions about our little veggie nuggets. And I’ve done my best to prepare an anticipatory FAQ to help things.

But for now, it’s still, kind of, just the two of us.  And we’re waiting on our beach chairs, watching that wave on the horizon grow taller and greener by the second.

Won’t be long.  $#&%’s about to get nuts.

16 Responses to “Going Public”

  1. Erin March 28, 2011 at 3:07 pm #

    You said it best… “$#&%’s about to get nuts.” Oh, how right you are. But… in a good way! Okay, mostly good. Have fun and hang on.

    • Jeremy March 29, 2011 at 8:55 am #

      $#&% already seems nuts, but I think we haven’t seen anything yet.

  2. pam March 28, 2011 at 3:42 pm #

    Man, I wish I had taken some time before telling people, if only to come up with a better way of telling them than stammering that we were having tr-tr-tri-triplets! At least we were able to calmly wait a few days before telling my ILs, but most people just got a messy bomb drop.

    • Jeremy March 29, 2011 at 8:56 am #

      We’ve even done a semi-rehearsal in the car on the way to friends’ houses. “Let’s take it from the top, and remember: energy!”

  3. Helen March 28, 2011 at 4:28 pm #

    It was 4 years ago on Wednesday that we found out we were having triplets (I was 12 weeks)… telling people a day or two before April Fools day always goes well 😉

    Enjoy the looks of shock! Those were fun days for us!

    • Jeremy March 29, 2011 at 8:58 am #

      Yeah, we thought of that. Why does our 1st trimester need to end right on April 1st? I guess we shouldn’t mention it at all this Friday…

  4. T & C Burns March 28, 2011 at 4:52 pm #

    We’re jazzed for you guys! We can’t wait to meet the little buggers.

    • Jeremy March 29, 2011 at 8:59 am #

      Danke, Honus! YOU HAVE BEEN CHOSEN TO HELP US RAISE OUR CHILDREN. Dare ye deny us?

  5. Katherine March 29, 2011 at 3:42 pm #

    so excited for you guys, and, if I’m honest, looking forward to the hilarity (for those of us not in the trenches) to come…

    • Jeremy March 30, 2011 at 8:18 pm #

      Us too. And don’t worry, KLo, we’ll figure out a way to get you down here into the trenches. You’ll just have to come and live with the Bears if need be.

  6. lauren March 29, 2011 at 4:21 pm #

    I’ll be madly checking FB all day tomorrow, so spill it early, bro. 😉 So excited for you, and gosh, I wish I could be there to see everyone’s faces. Good times.

    • Jeremy March 30, 2011 at 8:19 pm #

      FB = mad blog traffic. Woot!

  7. StayatHomeTripletDad March 30, 2011 at 6:18 am #

    My favorite way to tell people was to announce the pregnancy then hand them the sonogram pic with A, B, and C on it:)

    I likened it to a roller coaster ride. Right now you all are hearing the click, click, click, click, as you climb the first hill. You are sitting in the back so you can’t see the top of the hill (the birth) but you all anticipate it. Once you get pulled over the top it speeds up fast!!

    Have fun,


    • Jeremy March 30, 2011 at 8:20 pm #

      Yes, Carey’s taken to whipping out the ultrasound pics for the Doubting Thomases. And the click-click-click of the roller coaster’s pretty much the most accurate description of this feeling I think I’ve ever read…

  8. Sarah March 30, 2011 at 4:34 pm #

    I like to joke around so if given the chance, I would have done it on April 1st.

    Good luck – can’t wait to hear how it goes.

    • Jeremy March 30, 2011 at 8:22 pm #

      Sarah! Thanks for stopping in! I wish I had direct access to your photographic skills, sister.

      Love your blog. Hugely inspiring. I check it often (and anyone reading this should as well).

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