We’ve been kicking around an idea since we found out we’re having triplets. Let me hit you with it and, please, give me your honest opinion.
Growing up, my sister’s closest school friend was a girl named Dana. I don’t remember a whole lot about her, other than the fact that she was kind of a goofball. Very sweet and quirky. Also, Dana was a twin.
I don’t remember her twin brother’s name, but I do remember Dana thinking he was a little obnoxious. She’d roll her eyes and shake her head and say, “he acts like that because he’s older.”
“But aren’t you twins? Isn’t he older by, like, 5 minutes?”
“Yeah,” she’d say, “but he thinks it’s more like 5 years.” * [Update below.]
I’m the oldest of 3 and my wife’s the youngest of 3. We’ve discussed it over the years and wondered: what role does our birth order play in who we are? Would I have been attracted to Carey if I’d been a middle child or a youngest? Would I have chosen the same career? Would I have the same adult relationship with my sisters if they’d been older than me?
Clearly, my poor little sisters would’ve had to endure far less torture at my hands if we’d all been born at the same time. Then again, would they? Do groups of human beings need an Alpha? All things being equal, are all things equal?
So, our experiment: what if my wife and I keep the order in which our 3 are introduced to the world between us?
I’m not saying never tell them. But what if we wait until they’re 16 or 18 or well-established in their life patterns? What would happen if these three human beings really are treated as equals? Is it possible?
It would probably take a decent amount of pre-planned subterfuge to pull it off, but we might be able to do it if we’re committed. We’d have to hide a document or two, maybe fudge a few details if we have a particularly eventful birth (and, lets’ face it, we will).
The only thing I’m not sure about: if Birth Order Knowledge is taken from children, is that a frustrating or damaging to them? Will they hate us for it? We’re still on the fence about it.
I don’t know. What do you think?