Dear friends, family and loved ones,
Your encouragement and prayers have kept us buoyed these past 4 days. Thanks seems inadequate, but we’re eternally, profoundly grateful for your kindness.
Earlier this morning, our three beautiful boys were briefly introduced to the world before going home to be with The Lord.
In the coming days, I hope to say more about these young men and the circumstances of their birth and departure, but please believe me when I say that, if you’re reading this, Carey and I feel overwhelmingly blessed that you’ve chosen to take part in our journey, however sweet, however bitter.
We love you enormously.
Sincerely,
Jeremy Bear
Long Beach, California
June 4, 2011
Tips On Triplets 
I am so profoundly sorry for your loss. No words can help, but know I and many others are praying for you in the days, weeks and months ahead. May God surround you with His healing peace today and physical healing to your wife.
You will all be in my prayers for weeks to come. I only just discovered your story and my heart breaks that your time with your boys was so short. Just remember that the Lord works in mysterious ways and he would never put us through more than we can handle.
I have no words, just tears to cry with you. I’m so sorry.
oh guys i have nothing to say. i am sooo sorry and will be praying through tears for you.
Our hearts ache for your loss. We are praying for strength in the upcoming days.
Sending as much love as is possible through the internet. I don’t know what else to say in the face of such a loss, but I hope you find some comfort in one another and the brief time your boys were here with you.
I’m so sorry Carey and Jeremy. No one should have to go through what you have. Since I saw you yesterday I was praying for you to have healthy children, not sure if God meant for that to be in this pregnancy or not. It must seem so unfair what has happened. All I can say is that maybe God was trying to be merciful. The suffering that very young premies can endure while fighting for life in the NICU can be tremendous, and they were spared that suffering. But your suffering at their loss must be tremendous also, and I pray for you to have some peace. One day at a time. love Becky
My thoughts, prayers and tears are with your family.
My heart goes out to you
I am so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your wife can find comfort in each other and friends during this terrible time. I followed your story after a mention from Jenny on What the Blog and was pulling so hard for you guys. You are in my thoughts.
We are so sorry for your loss and are continuing to pray for you and lift you up.
heartbroken with you. many prayers for your pain. sending much love.
Sending love and prayers.
Oh, Jeremy, Carey ….. words fail. My heart, stomach are frozen; ripped open for you ALL.
Crying with you and praying for you this minute. I love you both so much.
I am just heartbroken for you. I can’t imagine the pain and I am so very sorry that this has happened. My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you in the coming days.
Much love to you all.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
I’m so sorry – I continue sending love & prayers to you guys.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain you are both going through. I pray that Carey will find quick physical healing and that you both will find peaceful emotional healing. Your boys lived a life of purpose even if it was a short life. I know I have been touched by your blog more than I can express. Love and prayers for you and your family during this time.
I’m so heartbroken for your family. Will continue to lift you up in prayer.
Carey and Jeremy, I don’t know what to say. I don’t know how to make this better, I’m am so unbelievably sad for you. I cant believe it. I loved those little guys so much. I will never forget the joy I felt the day you told me you were expecting them. The excitement of waiting for them. I’m in shock and complete disbelief. You two have been so incredible to watch through the last few months, to watch grow and evolve into such a loving mother and Jeremy into such a proud father. I’m sad and disappointed and angry. I am also thankful for the joy they have brought to your lives to my life to so many in their impending arrival. I’m just so unbelievably sorry. I love you guys.
We are brokenhearted for you two, so so sorry. Sending hugs your way.
I’m so so sorry. Words fail me at time like this. I will never understand (this side of Heaven) why God allows such things to happen. But I trust Him and I know He is Good. All the time. That’s what we lean on in times of complete & utter despair. I’m just so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you and Carey are enduring right now. I pray our love & prayers will bring some comfort in the sorrowful hours and days ahead of you. We love you guys!
Oh, Jer and Carey. I am deeply heartbroken for you and your 3 little boys. I cannot even begin to imagine the immense grief and loss that you feel. I wish I had words that could help you in some way, but the truth is there is nothing I can think of to soothe you. I hope that your boys did not suffer. I pray that they were taken peacefully to heaven. I wish that I could be there at this moment with you, but know that I am with you in spirit. I love you.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your wife at this time and I pray that you will gain strength, hope, and love from this time. You and your family are blessings to the rest of us. Hold on and never let go of your hope in the Lord. I’m sure those boys will be so excited when they get to be reunited with you in heaven.
I am weeping with you at this loss. I have no words other than that you will remain in our prayers. I am so sorry and will continue to ask God to provide you with strength that only He can give.
Weeping and speechless. Please know we love you and mourn with you, and we will continue to pray for you daily. Much love from all of us.
I am so sorry for your loss. Our prayers continue as you grieve the home going on your sons. Love to the both of you.
I’m heartbroken for you and am in tears. I am so sorry.
Dearest Carey and Jeremy,
Words can not express my sadness. I love you and am here for you in any capacity you need.
With all of my love
Tabitha
Your boys are blessed to have such loving, strong parents. I am so, so sorry for your losses. Your family will continue to be in my prayers.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I am crying and praying with and for you and your wife.
So sorry to hear brother. We love you guys and will pray that you’ll feel the Lords prescence during this tough time.
So sorry for your loss! Praying for you during this difficult time.
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I had prayed for a much happier outcome but the good Lord had other plans for your boys. May God continue to bless you and Carey.
Stunned. Hurting so much for you. Don’t know what to say. You have three treasures safely awaiting you in heaven but we know it still feels excruciating down here. Although it’s going to be tough in the meantime we hope it will be worth all the pain you are going through now when you can finally hold them in your arms.
Peace be with you.
Words are inadequate. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m so truly sorry for your loss. A friend posted a link to your story yesterday, and my thoughts were with you. I hope you get all the support and care you both need to eventually heal from this loss.
We are heart-broken for you and Carey. Words are inadequate to describe our sorrow and our love for you both. There is no sense to be make of such tragedy but this I know, you are beautiful loving parents as I always knew you would be and your precious boys made an impact on planet Earth and touched many many lives.
I wish I were there to hold you both in my arms.
I love you,
mom
Jeremy and Carey, this is Chloe’s husband, and I know all too well what you are going through. I feel so terrible, having watched your story the last few months, hoping that you two would be able to bring your boys into this world and we could experience it vicariously though you two. My deepest sympathies are with you, and the two of you are, and have been, in my thoughts. I wish there was a way to make it easier, there isn’t, but know you are not alone out there and that we all grieve with you.
There’s nothing that can be said to lessen the devastation. I’m just so, so sorry. They are still your kids and they will be part of your lives forever.
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I am praying for you through this grieving time and for healing.
I am so very sorry for you loss. You will be in my thoughts.
Kelly Gallagher
Charleston, Sc
I am so, so, so sorry. Your family will be in my prayers.
I am so very very sorry for your loss. May God give you the strength and courage to get through the following days and know that there are people all over the country (and world, too) praying for your family.
In Him,
Larissa
I’m so, so sorry to hear this. My condolences.
There are no words. I know this from personal experience and I hope and pray that your sons will forever be remembered and that those around you (who may read this) understand that your children’s names need to be spoken aloud around you, to you and often. These first days are are like a blur and I really pray that as the days turn into weeks and weeks into months that you are supported and loved continuously. I am so broken for you both. And I hope that you know that there are many many families online who are here for you. This baby loss (horrible name, I know) community is amazing. Please find us if you need support.
I am so sorry. There aren’t really any other words.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Condolences for your loss. I pray that the Lord will only keep you two closer to each other and Him.
I pray for comfort through this difficult time.
My tears will be with you and your family…
Sobered and saddened to read this news. Thank you for sharing your boys with us during their too-short lives. Mourning with and praying for you both.
Jeremy – I am so very sorry. Our angels share the same birthday 😦 I will always think of your boys on this day.
Dear Jeremy and Carey-
I met you (Jeremy) a long time ago – at Grace College when your friend Jeff and I drove from Cedarville. I saw a link to your blog from 2 friends from Grace (Carrie and Angela). I am so sorry for your loss – we did not lose a child but we have dealt with heartache over a child and experienced a long time in the NICU. We know first hand that despite our suffereings Christ is with us and will never leave those He loves.
May you rest in His peace.
– Nancy. H.
My heart is with you both during this time…
My heart is broken for you but my prayers are still with you and God is still good, may you allow him to bring you peace and comfort 😦 I am so sorry 😦
Our hearts are broken over this news. I’m so sorry that you have to know this pain. I hope our boys have found each other in heaven. We weep with you. Sending you so much love and prayers.
Jeremy and Carey, your Mom and I are heartbroken. Know that we are with you and love you both.
we mourn with you. in this time of profound sadness we pray desperate prayers, asking for increased strength and moments of peace in the days ahead. much love my friends.
I am so sorry to hear how things have turned out for you two. I just saw a lonk to your blog his morning and am sad to see the recent update
I unfortunately can relate to the feelings of grief and pain. In March my water broke at 21w3d and I delivered our third angel, 5 child and first son, 8 days later. Less than a year earlier I had delivered under similar circumstances at 22w also. And almost 4 years ago our third daughter was born after PROM at 24 weeks, but only lived 9 days.
You’re going to have a lot of people say a lot of things to you in the coming days, weeks, months, years. And some of it will help, while some of it will hurt. I pray that you two can draw strength from each other and from your faith. My husband and I have had some hard times but being together during those times has made all the difference. No one can even begin to offer up any words or explanation that can take away the pain. Knowing your children are in heaven can be a comforting thing, but the reality is no parent would rather this be the case. We all would rather be raising our babies here and now, and not being able to do so just hurts. I encourage you two to feel that hurt. After our third daughter passed away we did our best to put that pain aside and to focus on “the better place” concept and it was the worst thing we could have done.
I hope Carey is doing well, physically, and will have the two of you in my thoughts and prayers for a long time to come.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Praying that God be with you during this time of healing.
Another blog led me yours a few days ago and I checked back in today hoping to read good news and instead have tears of sorrow for your loss. I am so thankful that we have a God that allows us to cry out “Why?”. It is so very hard to understand when our God who is able to do anything doesn’t. All we can do is trust in His promise to be our God of all comfort. And in His promise of heaven and heavenly reunions. I hope that you are surrounded by family and friends who will give you the love and support to make it through this difficult time. May all of our prayers help as well. Blessings, Lynn Leaming
I hope that it goes without saying that we will continue to pray for you and Carey for a long time. We love your family.
Al
I am very sorry for your loss. You will remain in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing your story.
Oh, guys, I am so sorry. I hate that death exists in this world. I will continue to pray for you as you grieve. What heartache in this upside down world.
I’m so very sad for you both. Friends and strangers all over the world have been praying for you… and now we grieve with you. In these coming weeks and months, hang onto the knowledge that you were the BEST parents these babies could have and that you did everything you could for them. And that it’s okay to grieve… whenever and however you need to.
May God hold you close, bring you perfect peace and remind you minute-by-minute of His love.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Nobody should have to go through that. I wish you all the strength and love in the world. The story of you and your boys touched me immensely.
Und ob ich schon wanderte im finstern Tal, fuerchte ich kein Unglueck; denn du bist bei mir, dein Stecken und dein Stab troesten mich.
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Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
I feel profound sadness for you. May God wrap you in His loving arms and comfort you when there is no comfort to be found.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your three precious sons. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so very sorry for your loss. There really isn’t anything anyone can say to ease your pain. You guys have a very supportive group of people who love you and will be there for you. My grandmother, Ellen Hall, has been updating me on your story. Those little souls were entrusted to you for such a short time, but they were loved. They were nurtured, and they were so beautiful, that their work in this life was done in a very short time. They will walk with Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ for eternity, three perfect little souls. Turn to God and to each other in this time of grief. My family is praying for yours. Kristy
Sending u all so much love. I am so sorry.
My condolences to both of you. This is not what I wanted for you and it is most unfair. I am praying for you.
Jeremy and Carey,
This is crushing news. My heart goes out to you both. The magnitude of your loss is impossible to imagine. I hope you’ll take the time you need to grieve.
You are two beautiful people and these three gentle souls are lucky to have had you as their parents and guardians even if only briefly.
So very sorry.
Many hugs,
Mark.
Jeremy and Carey, My heart is breaking for you and I am praying for you right now. I wish I could hold you and make this better, make this horror go away. It’s impossible to imagine what you are feeling. Know that the boys are at peace in Heaven and our Lord knew each of them as they were being formed (Ps. 139). It is comforting to see how many are reaching out and caring for you. My prayers are with you constantly.
So sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for you and your family in the coming days, weeks and beyond.
My heart is just broken for you two. There just are no words that are appropriate for this situation. My thoughts and prayers are with you on this new journey.
Much love and prayers from OH.
I am devastated for you both. For everyone. I know the grief journey all too well as we’ll be without our son Andrew for 6 months tomorrow. Someone said it to me best as they attempted to console me (try to keep composed as people offer their advice on something so fragile. They will disappoint. Some will surprise. Some will offend. Some with amaze you):
It doesn’t ever get better, but it does get easier.
While some days I’m not sure if this is true at 6 months out, I know that living is worth it. Even if it means mourning the loss of our babies each and every day we live. May God comfort you in this time. And if you believe in prayer, that may come hard for you in the coming months. I know it’s been a challenge for us. We now pray differently– asking only for emotional strength and less for miracles of life/death.
Everyday this happens and it baffles me how many people must experience this terrible loss. Your wife is your biggest strength and support and probably the strongest woman you’ll ever meet. I know my husband has been nothing short of incredible in this time of grief. You are in good (yet sad) company. Blogging has been great therapy to me.
I’m so sorry.
I’m so very sorry, Jer and Carey. You’ll be in my prayers. Love and hugs from IN.
I am so sorry to hear this news. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you.
I am so, so very sorry for the loss of your precious boys. I don’t know you, but please know that many prayers are coming your way from me.
I have nothing to say, except how sorry I am to hear this. I wish there was anything else I could do.
I’m so sorry. I was praying so hard for a different turn out for your family.
From friends in Mazatlan Mexico….. As I prayed for your 3 little boys I knew the Lord Jesus was with them and I so believe that He will be with you now through this time of loss and sorrow. I will continue to pray that the Lord will continue to comfort you in this time and bring great peace and joy to your family….Joanna
We weep…with hope. You all are loved. I am so very sorry. God’s grace and peace to you each instant, in each thought, in each physical response, for each day to come.
NO! I’m not ready to stop praying for these little boys! I don’t want to offer condolences! NO! NO! NO!
That’s honestly how I feel. Just know that as I grieve with you, I will be praying for you. I don’t know what else to say.
We love you…we are heartbroken with you.
Still thinking about you guys. When I lost my baby there was a song that really spoke to my heart. I have been singing it all day and wanted to share it with you. It’s called Glory Baby by Watermark. They wrote the song after their own loss.
I just purchased it and sent it to you via itunes (to the art@ address). I hope it is comforting to you when you are ready to listen to it.
I was hoping and praying so hard for your boys…I wish there was something I could say but there are no words. I am so very sorry and am sending all of my love and prayers to you and Carey.
A mutual friend asked us to pray for you. Though we have never met, I have been praying for you, your wife, and your sweet baby boys. I am so sorry and will continue to pray.
my heart breaks to read this. i am just a cyber-friend from multiples & more, but i have been following closely and praying like crazy. there are no words but i am so sorry & will be praying for God to reign down huge heapings of comfort & grace in the days to come. thanks for letting us be a part of your journey!! we want to continue to be!!
Praying the peace that only the Lord can give during times like these. I am so sorry and will be keeping both Carey and you in my prayers.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so very sad to hear that you lost your boys. I will be praying for you both…..praying for you as you have times of peace, and times of anger, as you have times of joy and times of disbelief. To God our cries of hurt and anger are a form of worship…..he is big enough to hear all your feelings and emotions and love you all the same. Praying for you both and God’s presence to be with you every step of the way.
Jeremy and Carey,
We are so deeply sorry to hear about your three precious boys. Please know that though we are far away, we mourn with you. We will continue to pray that God’s love and the peace that surpasses all understanding will surround you at every moment.
With much love,
James and Rachel
I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. I am so truly, deeply sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. I have been praying for your family since my cousin Tami told me. Praying that God gives you comfort in your grief.
Friends, although I was just introduced to you and your family yesterday, I have been praying for a positive outcome. Today I read a devotion about when negative things happen, we ask God WHY? The devotion went on to say instead of WHY? shouldn’t we ask WHAT, does God want to show me though this situation. Hoping you find your WHAT? I’m sure God is right there by your side and will help on your journey. He is in control.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious sons. Following your journey for these last couple months, the love and excitement you had for your boys was very evident to all. We now grieve and ache with you. We will be praying that “the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:7). And Lamentations 3:22, “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail.” I am sure the grief feels consuming, but I pray you feel His love in a more personal, real way than you ever have before as you grieve this terrible loss.
We are so saddened by your loss. Our heart just breaks for your family.
I am so incredibly sorry. Trust and know that God is already holding your three amazing, precious boys in His mighty hands. They are waiting to see you one day. Hold comfort in His arms. My heart is aching for you at this time, tears are being shed for you both. Yet at the same time I’m praising God for your faithfulness to Him. You both are an inspiration. May you be blessed greatly during through all of this.
Praying for both of you…
So sorry for the loss of your sweet baby boys. I’m praying for you and your family.
Our hearts go out to you and know this is a time of sorrow. Hugs
Deeply sorry for the loss of your boys. Thank you for letting us mourn with you.
so sorry for your loss. there are no words…remembering you. an old pal from college, jamie
You don’t know me, but we share many friends from Grace. I have seen your blog and pleas for prayer posted by your friends on FB many times over the last few days, and I’ve been pleading with the Lord on behalf of your sweet family. It’s so hard when He chooses a different answer than the one we would prefer. I carried my son to term in February, but he had Trisomy 18 and did not survive, so my husband and I have also walked through the valley of the shadow of death as well. It is very, very hard, but I am praying that you will be given the grace and strength to bear it in these difficult days.
I have found this Scripture (among many others) to be true as we have traveled through the grieving process: “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
Jeremy and Carey–
I will not say I know exactly what you’re feeling right now, but I know firsthand about losing a child and the heartache that comes with it. I am praying that God, whose ways and might are unfathomable to us, will give you peace in the days and years to come.
With love and prayers,
Cori Koehn Nichols
The LORD bless you
and keep you;
the LORD make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
the LORD turn his face toward you
and give you peace.
Numbers 6:24-26
Sorry to hear such sad news. My heart breaks for you and your family.
Dear Jeremy and Carey, a friend posted these notes to FB today. I don’t know the story behind your 3 baby boys but I am very sorry for your loss. I know how precious and heartbreaking it is to lose your child/children. My baby granddaughter Hannah Kathryn was born stillborn May 13th. She made it 39 weeks, a miracle in itself! You see she had Trisomy 18. Just like Hannah Kathryn your babies have gone from “Perfection to Perfection!” They will never know the pain of sin but only the Perfect Love of our Father Jesus Christ from now to eternity! Be encouraged that you are not alone and many are weeping tears of great sadness but also tears of great joy with you! You are in this grandma’s prayers!
Kathryn Roberts
I’m so very deeply sorry for the loss of your three sons, your beautiful babies, who knew you love them and who also loved you so deeply. You and your family are in my prayers as you begin to move through the grief of this terrible loss.
I am so very sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I’m sure they were beautiful baby boys
Words can not express the heart break we are feeling for you. I am so sorry. Know that we are praying and will continue to pray for you in the days, weeks, and months to come. I am thankful that the boys are in glory right now waiting for you. I don’t know why this has happened but in the end we will know. I love you guys so much and send very tight hugs to you.
I’m so incredibly sorry to see this. My thoughts are with you, your wife and your sons.
I’ve been thinking of you both all day. My heart aches for you. We will continue to lift you up in our prayers.
Jason & Christi
So sorry to hear about your loss. Don’t even know what to say. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Grieving for you and praying. We are honored you have shared all of your lives with us. Thank you.
I am so, so, so sorry Jeremy and Carey. May God bless you both for remaining so immensely strong for your little boys. My heart breaks for your loss.
My heart breaks for you. Prayers will be said for your family and your 3 angels.
I am so heartbroken with you tonight.
I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for the privilege of being obedient in continued prayer for you and Carey. May God give you the peace only He can give in the coming days, weeks, months and years.
While only 22 wks your sons touched many lives all over the world. Our God is awesome.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband and I lost our twins at 21.5 weeks after a 10 day battle in the hospital. But nobody knows what you are going through. It’a hard road. I’m so sorry. I’m sure you got to drink in the beauty of your precious boys, though it could never be long enough. I know we never saw anything as beautiful as our twin girls. I’m so sorry.
With all that I have, I grieve with you! Praying that you may experience peace that passes understanding in your hearts and minds.
My heart and prayers are with you and your wife (as well as your friends and family). Im so incredibly sorry for the incredible loss of your boys. My thoughts and prayers will be with you during this painful time. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Jeremy, Carey, I feel so inadequate to express my sorrow and heartbreak for you. I wish I was there to walk with you each day. It’s a road that I’m sure will feel lonely and empty in the days ahead. I pray that God, whose mercies are new every morning, will grant you moments of kindness, comfort and love that will help you through each day. I pray that you will have an abiding peace in your hearts and that in the days that seem dark and when your hearts and faith feel weak that He will shine His light through. I pray that you will be bound tightly together as you’ve seen the great strength of the love that God has given you. I admire your strength and courage and compassion. I love you both so much and am so deeply sorry for you.
I am so so sorry for your heartbreaking loss.
This news just breaks my heart. I’m so sorry for the loss of your 3 babies. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
I am friends with Carrie Thomas and Sarah Isley and heard about you on Facebook. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious sons. I am praying for you both.
Your baby boys introduced you both to a worldwide audience. We rode along with you and watched you go from shock, to disbelief, then nerves, on to excitement, and finally joy as you became proud parents-to-be. We got to know your sense of humor, your love and devotion for each other, and your faith and love of God.
The complete trauma of the last week had us all praying with you, while we told your story to those we know, and had them praying as well. You and your boys have brought people all over the world together to pray. What an amazing gift to God that is.
In talking to my religious mentor about my two miscarriages, I asked her why God would let that happen. She told me that the God she believes in didn’t try to punish me by taking my babies. She believes God took my babies because there was something wrong with them and didn’t want them to suffer. Your babies are now living in eternal peace with Him.
I hope you both feel the outpouring of love being sent to you from around the world. But more importantly, I hope you feel the love and Grace of God. Know that He is with you and will not abandon you.
Take time to mourn and heal, but most importantly, take time.
I’m so sorry. I will continue praying for your family as you deal with this. My heart breaks for you two.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I can’t begin to imagine the heartbreak you are dealing with now. Please know that my family and I are praying for you and will continue to do so.
Dear Friends,
We have never met. I found your blog through a mutual friend we have. I want you to know that my heart breaks for your losses, the pit in my stomach is testament to my hurt for you. I remember this hurt each time I lost one of our precious miracles, four in total. You are at the beginning of a long journey. On my journey I learned a few things I would like to humbly and gently share. Please don’t be afraid to reach out to help to people that you can trust with your heart. (please feel free to email me with prayer request) Respect the process, if you feel sad let your self truly feel whatever emotion you are experiencing, then, take it to the Lord and lay it at His feet. And mostly know the God the Father, son and spirit weep and are broken hearted WITH you. The plan was always FOR life. I wish I could wrap my arms around you both and hear the story of how these miracle boys came to be entrusted to you for their time. Know that I will bring you both before the throne and ask God to let all our kids all play together in His peace.
Words cannot express the profound sadness I feel for you and Carey, no parents should ever feel the sorrow the two of you are experiencing. I am not a religious person by any means but I have turned mythoughts and prayers to you and your families during this time and for the many days to come. I heart aches for you. Although we don’t know each other, I will spend the following days thinking about you two and the 3 miracle angels watching over you.
So very deeply sorry for your loss. Having rode the “rollercoaster” of the high risk triplet pregnancy- “viable vs. not viable” is such a harsh and sad divide. Many prayers of peace for you and your wife. Your sweet little boys may be in Heaven but they will always be with you.
I’m truly so sorry for your loss…your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, all 5 of you will be kept in mind. Tons of prayers will continue to head your way.
Jeremy, Carey- so much sadness…so many tears….
What sadness, I am so sorry for your loss. I truly hope you both find peace. Take your time with this journey and take extreme care of yourselves.
I wish you both all the best.
We are absolutely devastated to hear about the passing of your 3 precious boys. Our prayers will remain with you and your loved ones for a long time to come.
I only heard about your family a few days ago via Facebook. After reading the link post about Carey being hospitalized I went back and read every single blog entry from the beginning. After reading the first couple of entries my husband joined me and together we read every post together. By the time we were done yesterday evening (june 3) we had laughed, cried, sympathized, admired and thought that while the current situation was dire, we would be reading more favorable posts in the days to come. Seeing your post today breaks our hearts for both of you, your family and friends, and everyone who so badly wanted to meet your boys.
Thank you for the post sharing the news that no one wanted to read and I know you never wanted to write. Your consideration and grace during such a sad and overwhelming time for you and Carey is truly amazing.
We are praying for you guys and hoping that, no matter how small or brief, you find peace in each day.
I don’t know you, I don’t need to! Crying for you as I lift you up to my God…. the One who won’t ever leave your side: the One that ties you to your boys, as they are with Him. I can’t imagine your pain and I pray your dear bride physically recovers soon. PRAYING like crazy for you! I’m so sorry!
I’m a friend of James and Rachel Joiner…though we’ve never met, you have been on my heart and in my prayers over the last days. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
I will continue to pray that God’s faithfulness and presence will be felt and that you would run to Him in your pain.
You are loved in Christ.
Rachel
So sorry, Jer and Carey. It’s hard to come up with words. We love you and continue to pray for you.
Jeremy and Carey, I just heard your news. Hello and goodbye should never happen in the same day. We cry with you, but know that the day will come when He will wipe away all tears. Praying with you until that day. We love you.
So sorry for your loss. Praying for God’s comfort, strength and peace to be with you and your wife.
jeremy and carey
my deepest sympathy to the both of you on the passing of your 3 beautiful princes’
take comfort in knowing that they’ll always be looking down on you with big smiles and saying to the other angels ‘thats my mum and dad 🙂 we’re so proud to have them as our parents’
im sure you’re both feeling the massive hugs you’re getting from across the globe.
may god bless you both and remember you’re not alone in this as we are ALL holding your hands right night
Love Jodie xoxox
I am deeply saddened for both of you. You must know that those little boys knew how much you and Carey loved them. I will pray that your hearts find peace in this loss. Thank you for sharing this with us.
I only recently started to follow your blog and my thoughts and prayers have been with you in these trying days. I am a NICU nurse and understand the situation. I pray for peace for you both and am terribly sorry for your loss.
Carey & Jeremy, We are devastated for your loss. My heart hurts for all of you. Never forget that you have many, many friends around you & around the globe for that matter who care about and love you all. Thinking about you all and still praying. Love, The Murphys
My heart is breaking for you and Carey. I can’t find the words to express my sorrow. I am so so sorry and I can only hope that the love and support from friends and families continues to give you and Carey strength.
I have known of your little family only four days. Even so, you have impacted my life greatly. Thank you for your eloquence, your transparency and especially your trust in the Lord. May He give you sufficient courage and comfort to face the coming days.
Jeremy, Carey, I am so desperately sorry. I will be thinking of you both in the coming days.
Jeremy and Carey,
I have been folowing your blog from Multiples and More since you began it (I gave you the blog award), I am so sorry to hear this news and will continue to pray for you and Carey. I will tell you,that as I have been praying this week for your boys, I always felt the presence of the Holy Spirit and know that God is with them. I am just so sorry and don’t know what to say….except you and your family have touched our lives in a major way. We will be praying for your peace and healing.
Praying for you guys….. so sorry for your loss- thank you for sharing.
O God, whose most dear Son did take little children into His arms and bless them; Give us grace, we pray, to entrust the soul of these thy children to thy never-failing care and love, and bring us all to thy heavenly kingdom, that we may be united with them, and may stand in thy presence in the fulness of joy; through the same thy Son, Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
I posted on the wrong blog – two before- as I didn’t find this entry until now. I hope you find the post. In a nutshell, I am praying for you. Crying with you. Caring, even though I am a stranger. -Amy
Our hearts are break for you. Praying for you!
I found your blog through a friend’s blog only yesterday and you guys have been on my mind ever since! I am so terribly sorry for your loss! Any amount of words that I could say would be insufficient as to what you guys are going through. Please know that we will continue to lift you guys up in prayer as you begin the new part of this journey. We pray that God wraps His arms around you, bringing you comfort and strength as you face the road ahead. We pray that He gives those around you the right words to say and the right steps to take in your time of need. Most of all, we pray that you overwhelmingly feel His love and faithfulness surrounding you during this difficult time. Praying here in Alabama!
I have been following your story – so very sorry for the loss of your three sweet boys. Will keep you in our prayers.
Kara
Oh guys, I’m so sad for you both. Words fail me. Josh Petrillo sent me a link to your blog and I have been reading from the beginning, experiencing the backstory a bit late I’m afraid. May the Lord grace you with strength and hope in this time — especially that He would keep your hearts close. Grace and peace to you, my friends.
Typing through tears. We are praying for you and Carey.
There are no words. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you prayers and thinking of you and your family today.
My thoughts are with you right now and always.
I’m so, so sorry for your loss.
I can only imagine the pain you are feeling.
I’m just so sorry, can’t seem to find anything else
that seems appropriate to say.
Carey, So sorry to hear this news. You are just one of the sweetest people I have ever met. We are thinking of you and keeping you in our prayers back here in PA. I pray that you and Jeremy can draw strength from each other and from Above. Hugs to you… Laura
Tami Molyneaux sent me your link…we’ve been praying for you. My heart breaks for you both and though I long to say something that will comfort and help, I know firsthand that there just isn’t anything. But we care. We pray. We grieve for you. Your precious boys will be missed in this world.
Jeremy and Carey, we are so sadened by your loss. Aaron and I pray for healing and know that God is with you.
I am profoundly sorry for your loss. I will be offering prayers to our Lord that he gives you strength to get to the other side of this pain and the understanding of his plan for your lives. God bless you both.
My hearts breaks. There are no words, but know that you are truly being prayed over today and through the coming weeks. May God hold you close, and bring you rays of peace in the midst of your grief.
My husband and I have been following your journey for some time and are praying fervently now that God gives you a supernatural peace as you mourn your beautiful boys.
Love,
Carly
Dear Jeremy and Carey,
I found your blog through a post on Facebook. I live in Minnesota, but I’m from Los Alamitos, so as I’ve read your stories, I can picture things. Even the hospital. And my heart is just broken for you.
I’ve had a loss at 22 weeks. I can only imagine that loss, amplified by two more simultaneous losses. It is amazing how much they can change your life, in such a short amount of time.
I pray that you and Carey continue to be comforted as much as possible by the love and prayer of many who know you, and many who do not at all, but who are thinking of you just the same.
I know that after a loss, it seems like your whole world shifts, the colors change, and everything is different. Yet, everyone seems to be walking around like the sky hasn’t just fallen down. Please know that there are others who see it to.
Peace to you both.
Carey and Jeremy — I’ve been traveling and not keeping up with posts lately….just finding out what you’ve been going through. I am so sorry to hear this news, and I have no words. Just love. Geir and I are so sorry.
My heart goes out to you and your family……
My heart breaks for you all. I’m sure the coming months will be difficult, and I’m sending love and strength your way…
Continuing to lift you up in prayer.
There is a beautiful song called ‘I Will Carry You’ that was written by Angie Smith and her husband, Todd, who is the lead singer of the group Selah. They wrote it for their daughter, Audrey, who died two hours after she was born. Angie also wrote a book called “I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy”.
Here is a link to the song on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FlDUkp1Ts8A
Here are the lyrics:
There were photographs I wanted to take
Things I wanted to show you
Sing sweet lullabies, wipe your teary eyes
Who could love you like this?People say that I am brave but i’m not
Truth is i’m barely hanging on
But there’s a greater story
Written long before me
Because He loves you like this
So I will carry you
While your heart beats here
Long beyond the empty cradle
Through the coming years
I will carry you
All my life
And I will praise the One who’s chosen me
To carry you
Such a short time
Such a long road
All this madness
But I know
That the silence
Has brought me to His voice
And He says
i’ve shown her photographs of time beginning
Walked her through the parted seas
Angel lullabies, no more teary eyes
Who could love her like this?
I will carry you
While your heart beats here
Long beyond the empty cradle
Through the coming years
I will carry you
All your life
And I will praise the One who’s chosen Me
To carry you
I just realized my comment that i tried to post last night did not post. I am friends with Carrie Thomas and Sarah Isley and I heard about your situation on Facebook. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious sons. I am lifting you up in prayer.
Gary mentioned you and your family in service today. I wanted to let you know we are all praying for the peace and support in these upcoming days. May God be with both of you.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I will be praying the same Father in Heaven who is holding your boys right now will wrap you in His love and bring you peace.
I have no words. That is so unfair. I’m so so sorry.
Dear Jeremy and Carey. I am so sorry to hear about your boys. I’m thinking about you and sending you all my warm thoughts. Kari
Mourning with you in Maryland.
Peace and Blessings to you both.
JKP
Heartbroken and praying
V Green
Delaware, OH
I don’t you know personally but you and your beautiful wife are family in Christ and He calls us to share our pain together. I am very sorry for your loss. I am praying for you with a broken heart but not with a broken spirit for there is hope, and peace, and comfort, and renewal in God our Father and I pray that all His goodness envelops you as you walk through your valley of shadows waiting for the sun to shine upon you. He is with you always.
Respectfully in Christ,
Gilda M.
There is nothing I can say to ease these feelings. Rely on God. Rest in him. We are praying for you in this difficult time.
So terribly sorry to hear this news. May God bless you and keep you in the coming days.
My heart breaks for your family. You’re in our prayers and we hope that you’ll feel peace that only God can give to you. Even though your boys were in the world for such a short time, they knew they were loved from the moment they began to grow and I’m sure you feel privileged that you are their parents. May God bless you and fulfill your desires for many healthy and happy children in the years to come.
Praying for you and your family.
Jeremy & Carey,
We’ve been praying ever since we heard, and our hearts are aching with you at the news. A whole boatload of people here in Hilliard Ohio loves you and are weeping with you.
I am so sorry for your losses. So sorry.
I just discovered your blog this week through a friend and am so shocked and saddened by the turn of events this week. My heart aches for you both and for your sudden loss. It’s hard to understand why this had to happen this way…what is God’s purpose in this? How does this fit in with His plan? But God is good and I pray that He will be close and bring you comfort during this time of grief. I can’t begin to imagine what you are going through, but you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Dear Jeremy, As I followed your story, I felt apart of it. Now I grieve with you. Although I do not know what you or your wife are feeling, from afar I am asking God to draw you close to Himself and give you what you need for today (Matt. 6:11). SIncerely, Joy
You don’t know us but my husband and I work with Trish Young. May we momentarily come out from behind the curtain of prayer support and just say that your family has touched our hearts. We are so sorry that outcomes were not as we had all hoped, but we do pray that God will bless you in ways you have never imagined. You sound like you are and will be amazing parents. May God ease your pain and prepare your hearts for whatever He has for you, and for whoever (and however many!) children are already being prepared to become yours to raise and nurture into amazing young men and women.
Bless you both and may He give you peace and comfort,
Becki and Don
There are no words that I can give you that are adequate I’m quite sure. Just know that I love you both and want to support you in every way conceivable. And though I didn’t get to meet those precious little guys, I feel as though I’ve gotten to know them just a bit… and I shall miss them terribly. And when I come to the end of life, I’m sure I will look back and reflect and consider one of the great disappointments in my life having been not being able to meet these fine fine young men in person… Rudyard, Desmond, and Oscar Bear.
We love you. We’re proud of you. And we have been blessed and honored that you have allowed us to walk in this journey with you. I know you are so proud of your boys. They have moved and affected so many people in their too brief life here. They are loved by many, many people. And will continue to be loved. This part of the journey is only beginning for you, but we will keep praying for peace and comfort. In the weeks, months, years to come.
We have been following your adventure.
We are now grieving with you and for you as you turn to a new chapter…experiencing a great loss. As you now identify with Christ as He too suffered in this fallen world.
We know our Lord has his plans even when we can not understand. We trust and lean on His Strength as the Great Physican.
With Love and Prayers, Jeff’s parents
My husband and I are so sorry to hear of your loss. We are praying for you both. Although we have never lost triplets with the circumstances you faced (and walked honorably before the Lord through), we did lose two precious babies. I wanted to share some things that helped us grieve well, in case something we did might help you. We clung to each other and continually asked questions of one another so that we were processing (not stuffing) what we were dealing with. We wrote letters to each of our children. We took a trip away together to reflect and also to enjoy each others company-experience life in the midst of sorrow. When things got really tough, we went to see a good Christian counselor who was at a church with sound Biblical doctrine. That really helped us a lot! We read the book Disappointment with God by Philip Yancey and Heaven by Randy Alcorn. Maybe none of these ideas will help you, but I pray that you find your own way to remember and that you will grieve well. Much love and hugs to you both! Still Praying!
Our family is praying for you. I am so sorry for your losses.
Your boys touched so many people, I can’t imagine how proud you are.
Very sorry to hear that, and still praying for you and Carey as you face the difficult days ahead. xx
As a fellow triplet mom, I wish there was something I could do or say that would take away the pain. I’m so very sorry. Your blog got passed on to me by other fellow triplet moms and I’ve been praying for you and your boys ever since….please know I will continue to pray and think of you and your family.
I’ve been following your blog since I found it on M&M. I’m so sorry for your loss. I have been “hoping” right along with you for the past few days.
I wish there was something I could say or do to make your pain go away.
After reading all the comments to this post…you have a lot of people that love you and are thinking of you during this time.
Nothing I can add that hasn’t been said better, but our thoughts are with you.
Here from LFCA.
I am so, so sorry! I wish you and your wife all the best. Take your time to grieve, but I hope you can find peace soon.
I am so sorry to read of your loss. I just read back to catch up on what was going on. My prayers are with your family.
Dear Carey and Jeremy, I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you to have strength or whatever you need to get through the coming days, weeks and months. I’m so, so sorry. Patti
Praying for you and grieving with you, Jeremy and Carey. I can’t imagine how much it hurts, but I’m asking God to flood you with comfort and healing.Thank you for sharing your story, and the story of your precious boys with us.
Here from LFCA. I am so so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby boys. I can’t begin to imagine your grief. I will be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
We are praying for all of you daily. Love, Cary and Tracy
Jer- & Care-Bear,
I am so very, very sorry. While the joy of knowing they have been quickly ushered into the arms of the Lord will satisfy eternally, the pain of your loss of the three little gems, who they are, who they were, and what your lives might have been… I know there is a great depth to your hurt and sadness.
So very few of us can say we have been there, but we do know you hurt now. I pray for your comfort. Having just lost my Dad last Wednesday, our pain is still fresh but in no way equals your own. However, as Dad was and is a believer and your boys were and are true innocents, we can share in the joy of knowing that they are now in the best of embraces and the best of places.
I have and will pray for you both.
Big K/ Kelley/ Bud-North
You have been in my prayers. I was so hoping for a miraculous outcome. May you find some comfort in knowing that your grief is shared by so many.
I just came across your blog last week and was so sorry to hear of your loss when I logged on today. Please know that thoughts are with you from Texas.
Jeremy and Carey, having a similar experience 12 years ago, I could not understand what GOD was doing. My wife and I were so blessed to have “a friend” who had also experienced the same, someone to just cry with and talk with if we wanted/needed. It hurts so much every time I hear of another “friend” going through this, but I now know that maybe, maybe that is why I had to endure such pain. Please know that if you would like someone to “talk” with, be angry with, or cry with, and you feel the need a friend, I am here and available. David – schultz9@live.com . Please know that I will be praying with you.
I also just came upon your blog last week through a FB friend and am saddened for you as your experience the loss of your boys. My thoughts and prayers will be that God brings you peace and comfort today and His strength to see you through the times ahead.
The deepest love and sympathy to you both. I know that God is with you -I can see it in all the love and prayers that are posted here.
I found your blog through the ALI community. I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that God will you peace and strength to get through the tough days to come.
Oh no! I’m so sorry! I can not imagine the hurt and pain. I hope you can find some comfort somewhere. I don’t know what to say 😦 So sad for you guys!
I’m so very sorry…this is a heartbreaking time. I’m so very sorry that your miracle didn’t happen…at least not in the way that we can understand Earthside.
Know that you did everything you could to save your angels. There was NOTHING you could have done to prevent this tragedy. It was just a horrible circumstance.
From the bottom of my heart, I wish things had turned out differently and that your boys were here on Earth with you. I hope you got some peace from the short time they were in your arms.
I grieve with you.
Claire
(PPROM at 11 weeks with Twin A, delivered at 25 weeks, NICU for 5 months)
I just found your blog today. Words are never enough, but I am so sorry for your loss. I am crying and praying for you both, as well as your families. Losing a child is one of the worst things a parent will have to endure. It is a pain I wish no parent had to ever experience. I lost my daughter on January 26, 2011 at 23 weeks.
Hugs from Hartford, MI.
I just found your site through LFCA and I am crying for you. I know there is nothing that can be said to ease your pain. Just know how sorry we are for your loss. I just experienced a second trimester loss and my heart goes out to you and your wife and three precious babies.
My heart breaks for you and with you. I am so sorry to hear about your loss and your pain. You are in my prayers and my thoughts.
Every time I type a comment I erase it because there simply are no words to say. I’m so, so sorry for your three losses. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Hopefully you will be able to get each other through this time. Time heals but you’ll never forget those three precious boys.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your beautiful boys.
So very sorry for your loss. I know no words can ease the pain, but I hope you can feel the thousands of arms holding you during this painful time. You both are in my thoughts and prayers! So very unfair….
Take care & God Bless!
Stopping by from LFCA to say I’m so incredibly sorry to hear of the loss of your sons. My husband & I also lost our first pregnancy due to preterm labor at 23wks into my pregnancy and I remember well the intense grief of those first days. I hope that you both continue to feel supported at this difficult time and cling to each other. Sending hope that you each find the strength you need during this unimaginable time ((hugs))
I’m so terribly sorry for the loss of your boys. There are no words. I wish you strength for the days ahead.
with all my sympathy
from LFCA
Your loss is unimaginable. May God’s immeasurable peace be with you and Carey.
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts today and in the coming weeks, months and even years as you mourn your sweet babies. It is a pain with which I am familiar, as we lost our first babies, twins, at 23 weeks due to prematurity as well. Much love and strength to you.
i’m so so sorry. i was hoping with all my might.
there are no words to express how deeply sorry I am for y’all…I am sending you as much love and prayers as I can…I know this will be a long recovery, but know that we are all here for you…
My heart is broken for you and your wife. You are in my thoughts and prayers.