As of yesterday evening, Carey and I have returned to the homestead.
It’s an enormously difficult time for us and we’ve put together a few thoughts about our sons that we’ll likely post to the blogs shortly. Still reading through the many prayers and sympathies offered by so many kind people, from family to dear friends to people who’ve never met us but clearly love us like their own.
A lot of folks have expressed how meaningless and inadequate they feel their words must be, but I hope you can trust me when I say that we’ve treasured every single note and we even find ourselves frequently encouraging each other with your words to us. As I told my good friend Jon last night, the prayers and sorrow and hope and grief and anger and encouragement and questioning and tears you’ve shared have been unbelievably helpful because you’re expressing everything I wish I could express, but am lacking the focus and energy to do so.
All that’s to say, if you’re worried you’re going to say or do the wrong thing, please don’t. If you care about us, we’ll know it and there’s no wrong way to express it to us. (Actually, that’s not 100% true. I received a chain message a few moments ago, telling me that Jesus would do something fantastic for me if I forward it to 13 friends. I’ll admit it, could probably have done without that one.)
We’ve been asked what our immediate needs are, particularly in terms of prayers. As you can guess, we have a very long season of grief ahead, but, in the short term, there are a great deal of practical matters that need to be addressed. (Medicine stuff, legal stuff, mortuary questions, memorial plans, work and clientele communications, updating attendees about the shower cancellation, and, of course, the matter of the sizable amount of baby supplies that need to be returned and/or cancelled.) We’re doing our best to give it the attention it requires, but it’s not easy. So, thanks in advance for remembering us with those things.
Carey is, as you already know, a truly beautiful and courageous soul. The most common thing I’ve been asked over the past couple of days is “how is your wife?” Be encouraged that her physical recovery is, so far, going as well as can be expected. A lot of physical pain that she’s trying to stay ahead of with meds, but the mental exhaustion and need for rest is definitely taking its toll. I’m going to spend most, if not all this week at home with her, hopefully helping her to get the recovery time she needs.
Thanks again for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers. It’s appreciated now as much as ever.